How to Give and Receive An Authentic, Vulnerable and Sexy Lap Dance
Tips For Giving a Lap DanceWhile this first lap dance was good, over the years I’ve learned how to make the experience even more fun and enticing for both of us. 1. Spontaneous or Scheduled? While I’ve tried both, I prefer spontaneity to take advantage of being in the mood to dance. Consider what’s best for you. If it’s for a special occasion, plan it for some time during the week or weekend rather than at a preset time in order to go with the flow of how you’re feeling. 2. Improvised or Choreographed? Choreography keeps me in my head. Improvisation enables me to be in the moment. If you need structure, ‘map’ out of how you want to move through the room. If you prefer choreography, practice it on an empty chair or even with a girlfriend so you don’t fret about forgetting what comes next. Even if you do skip something, he won’t know. 3. Choose Music That Turns You On Choose music that you can’t resist moving to. Choose music that he also enjoys. My music was great the first time. Another time I chose a song I adored, but it was too much like hip-hop for his taste. Have at least two songs or an entire playlist so you can dance for as long as you like. This also enables you to include at least one song you know he’ll love. 4. Wear What Feels Luscious Wear clothes that feel good and luscious and that isn’t too complicated to strip out of (if you plan to strip out of an outfit) Experiment because it’s easy to get tangled up in clothing; it’s helpful to practice surrendering rather than fighting this when it happens. Messy and tangled can be super hot, as long as you don’t let it irk you. Unless being irritated makes you feel sexy. 5. Caress Your Body This tells him where to look. And will drive him crazy because he’ll wish he were the one doing the touching. It also sends the message that you adore your body, which can be a major turn-on for you both. 6. Power of Gaze Eye contact is intimate. It can make you feel vulnerable and powerful. When I danced for my husband the first time I didn’t fully understand how to wield the power. One way is to hold his gaze while you dance and show off different body parts. He’ll be drawn to look at your swaying hips or prancing legs, but won’t be ‘allowed’ while you maintain eye contact. Add touch to heighten the experience. Hold his gaze while letting your hands roam down your own body. When you look at your hands caressing your calf, you give him permission to do the same. It can be intoxicating. If you feel shy and coy, it’s also fine and fun to look away or hide your gaze behind clothing, a hat, your hair or other furniture in the room. 7. Own Your Sexy Instead of thinking things like “I wonder what affect this is having on him?” like I did that first time, send him sexy messages that he’ll receive through your movement. “Aren’t my curves sexy,” as your hand traces them from cheek, to neck, over breast, belly and hip. When feeling like a flirty temptress, “I know you want me, but you can’t have me…. Yet.” As a lioness on the hunt, “I’m insatiable for you, here I come…”
Tips for Receiving a Lap Dance by Brian Faulkner1. Respect the Woman in Front of You Realize that what she’s doing is sharing a part of herself that she doesn't share with the rest of the world. Consider yourself lucky to be with such an amazing woman. Revel in it. Before the dance, in a casual way, ask your wonderful partner if there are any dos and don'ts for what you do while she dances. For example: Can you touch? Can you enthusiastically yell, whistle, applaud, scream, jump up and down? Can you take pictures? Whatever rules she sets, follow them. Because, if you don’t she may never dance for you again. If your willpower is weak, ask her to tie your wrists together (or one arm to each thigh) so you can’t touch. Put tape over your mouth if you can’t resist hooting. 2. Enjoy the Experience Sit, relaxed and ready to receive. Turn your phone OFF (unless she wants you to record her dance). Watch her dance in front of you, around you, and on you. Make eye contact with her. Whistle, hoot, clap (if allowed). Show her how much you appreciate her efforts in ways she understands. 3. Complement Her After the dance is over, be positive and complementary. Don't compare what you saw with anything from prior experiences or your imagination. Tell her how amazing she is and what you loved about her dance. Take her in your arms and hold her tight. The rest is up to the both of you.
Have you ever given a lap dance? Have you ever received one? What was your experience like and what tips would you add for the giver and the receiver?
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