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    5 Erotic Classics for Valentine's Day

    5 Erotic Classics for Valentine's Day

    The world may be in the grips of 50 Shades fever, but erotica has been changing the way people view sexuality for centuries. Erotica can help you delve into new aspects of your sexuality in a safe way, explore your fantasies, and is a sexy past time to share with your lover. To get you started on your erotic journey, check out our list of 5 erotic classics.

     1. Sleeping Beauty Trilogy by Anne Rice

    Themes explored include:
    • BDSM
    • Male Dom, Fem Dom, male sub, fem sub
    • Erotic Punishment
    • Erotic Servitude and Slavery
    • Fetishism: Pony Play, Leather, Whips, Chains, a little bit of everything
    • Heterosexual and Homosexual relations (M/F, F/F, M/M)
    • Polyarmous relations
    • Loss of virginity
    • Voyeurism
    Originally published under pseudonym A.N. Roquelaure, the Sleeping Beauty series consists of The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty, Beauty’s Punishment, and Beauty’s Release. Set in a fairytale land of kingdoms, powerful queens, and exotic sights these books tell the story of Beauty's journey into erotic captivity.  This story is unique in that while it focuses on Beauty's story it also delves into the experiences of several other captives, both male and female. It is a personal favorite of mine because a long with featuring a wide variety of sexual exploits that will meet almost every BDSM fantasy, true relationships and romances are developed.
    But the Prince, as if sensing her strange confusion, kissed her full on the mouth before mounting his horse, and said in a soft voice so that only those around them could hear: "When you enter my Kingdom, you shall be mine more completely than ever. You will be mine beyond reprieve, and it will be easier for you to forget all that went before that time, and devote your life to me only."

    2. Fanny Hill by John Cleland

    Themes explored include:
    • Prostitution
    • Heterosexual and homosexual relations
    • Polyarmous relations
    • Loss of virginity
    • Voyuerism
    Considered to be one of the most prosecuted and banned books in history and the first modern erotic novel, Fanny Hill or Memoirs of a Woman of Pleasure by John Cleland was published in 1748. It is written as a collection of letters by the main character, Fanny, explaining her life of vice. From the tragic death of her parents at 15 to her induction into prostitution to falling in love then back to prostitution, we learn every sordid detail of her vast experiences. The long time frame in which the story takes places allows for lots of different types of sexual relationships to be explored. The author clearly enjoy writing about large penises so you have that to look forward too.
    He lay on the outside, where he kept the candles burning, no doubt for the satisfaction of every sense, for as soon as he had kissed me, he rolled down the bed clothes, and seemed transported with the view of all my person at full length, which he covered with a profusion of kisses, sparing no part of me. Then, being on his knees between my thighs, he drew up his shirt, and bared all his hairy thighs, and stiff staring truncheon, red top, and rooted into a thicket of curls, which covered his belly to the novel, and gave it the air of a flesh brush; and soon I feel it joining close to mine, when he had drove the nail up to the head, and left no partition but the intermediate hair on both sides. I had it now, I felt it now, and, beginning to drive, he soon gave nature such a powerful summons down to her favourite quarters, that she could no longer refuse repairing thither; all my animals spirits then rushed mechanically to that center of attraction, and presently, inly warmed, and stirred as I was beyond bearing, I lost all restraint, and yielding to the force of the emotion, gave down, as mere woman, those effusions of pleasure, which, in the strictness of still faithful love, I could have wished to have kept in. Yet oh! what an immense difference did I feel between this impression of a pleasure merely animal, and struck out of the collision of the sexes, by a passive bodily effect, from that sweet fury, that rage of active delight which crowns the enjoyments of a mutual love passion, where two hearts, tenderly and truly united, club to exalt the joy, and give it a spirit and soul that bids defiance to that end which mere momentary desires generally terminate in, when they die of a surfeit of satisfaction!

    3. Story of O by Pauline Réage

    Themes explored include:
    • BDSM
    • Male Dom, fem sub
    • Erotic Servitude and Slavery
    • Erotic Punishment
    • M/F, F/F
    This erotic classic by Anne Desclos, under the pseudonym Pauline Reage, was written in response to her lovers remark that no woman was capable of writing an erotic novel.  Well, she sure proved him wrong in writing what would become a must read for every Kink 101 student. The book became a massive success when it was published in 1954 and the highly graphic content fueled controversy and brought obscenity charges from the French government. The Story of O charts the willing sexual slavery of a young Parisian photographer, O. She submits herself to harsh and total immersion into the education of submission for her lover, Rene. We follow her experiences from an elite club for her first sexual trainings to her tutelage under an older master and then her experiences at a female only home where she delves into the deepest elements of her submission. O's journey is extreme and not for the faint of heart, but her story is an intriguing look into compete and total submission.
    "Her lover, seated on the floor leaning against the ottoman over which she had been thrown at the beginning of the evening, with his knees raised and his elbows on his knees, was toying with the leather whip. As she took her first step to join the women, her skirt grazed him. He raised his head and smiled, calling her by her name, and he too stood up. Softly her caressed her hair, smoothed her eyebrows with the tip of his finger, and softly kissed her on the lips. In a loud voice, he told her that he loved her. O, trembling, was terrified to notice that she answered "I love you," and that it was true... Very softly this time he repeated to her that he loved her, and very softly added: "You're going to kneel down, cress me, and kiss me," and he pushed her away ... "

     4. Venus in Furs by Leopold von


    Themes explored include:
    • BDSM
    • Fem Dom, male sub
    • Erotic Servitude and Slavery
    • Fetish: furs, whips
    The term Sado-Masochism originated from the authors last name so you know he knows he means business. This novella focus on one man's unadulterated love and obsession for one woman, Wanda. He convinces her to take him as her slave. While initially repulsed by the idea, over time she finds that she derives pleasure from it,  treating him to more and more abuse. So enraptured with Wanda is he, that he takes on a new name and the role of her servant. Themes of female domination, obsession, and degradation are explored throughout the text.
    "No," she exclaimed, "stay as you are, kneeling." She went over to the fire-place, took the whip from the mantle-piece, and, watching me with a smile, let it hiss through the air; then she slowly rolled up the sleeve of her fur-jacket. "Marvellous woman!" I exclaimed."Yes, in all seriousness, I want to be your slave," I continued. "I want your power over me to be sanctified by law; I want my life to be in your hands, I want nothing that could protect or save me from you. Oh, what a voluptuous joy when once I feel myself entirely dependent upon your absolute will, your whim, at your beck and call. And then what happiness, when at some time you deign to be gracious, and the slave may kiss the lips which mean life and death to him." I knelt down, and leaned my burning forehead against her knee.

     5. Lady Chatterly's Lover by D.H. Lawerence

    Themes explored include:
    • adultery
    • heterosexual and homosexual relationships (F/M, M/M)
    • strong power dynamics
    As with the Story of O, Lady Chatterly's Lover was both a big hit with the public and the subject of obscenity charges with its publication in 1928 (always a good sign). Along with themes of the importance of physical passion, the book delved into the class conflict that were a big part of early 20th century Britain. In the story we follow, Constance (Lady Chatterley), who is married to Clifford, a man who is paralyzed from the waist down. Feeling more and more isolated by Clifford's intellectual, emotional, and sexual neglect, Constance looks outside her marriage for comfort. She is desperate for deeper feelings and true passion that she finds lacking in the men she meets. Oliver, the grounds keeper, returns to the estate after the army and Constance feels herself inexplicably drawn to him. She begins an affair with him that would forever transform her.
    He roused in the woman a wild sort of compassion and yearning, and a wild, craving physical desire. The physical desire he did not satisfy in her; he was always come and finished so quickly, then shrinking down on her breast, and recovering somewhat his effrontery while she lay dazed, disappointed, lost. But then she soon learnt to hold him, to keep him there inside her when his crisis was over. And there he was generous and curiously potent; he stayed firm inside her, giving to her, while she was active...wildly, passionately active, coming to her own crisis. And as he felt the frenzy of her achieving her own orgasmic satisfaction from his hard, erect passivity, he had a curious sense of pride and satisfaction.

    What erotic novels tickle your fancy? Will you be doing some sensual reading this Valentine's Day?

      Jillian is an avid pole dance student, accessories and costume designer, rhinestone aficionado, and a PDBloggers Executive Committee MemberP. She also writes at

    SPECIAL NOTE: For the months of January and February the editorial focus of the Bodybinds Blog will be ALL ABOUT KINK. While we may cover a few other topics here or there, you will notice a lot of features on the topic of KINK.  If you are interested in guest writing, being interviewed or featured, please email the editor at

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    How to Define Your Kink: Unconventional Simple Tips in a Conventional World

    How to Define Your Kink: Unconventional Simple Tips in a Conventional World

    Photo Credit: Lies Through a Lens

    We all have kinky energy inside of our soul, even the meekest among us. We may not acknowledge it for whatever reason, but the kink is there. Some of the common reasons we suppress or ignore our inner kink is due to religion, upbringing, fear, or caring about the opinions of others.  Even the definition of KINKY, according to  Merriam-Webster  teaches us to base our preferences off of someone else’s idea. It states, relating to, having, or appealing to unconventional tastes especially in sex; also sexually deviant. Who is the authority for what’s conventional and unconventional in sex though? Who governs what is and isn't deviant? We have been inundated with messages, both consciously and subconsciously from everywhere regarding conventional and unconventional thinking, that we’ve now taken the spirituality and overall wellness out of acknowledging ourselves as sexual beings. Some of us, mainly what I know of western society, have been taught to speak in hushed tones and behind closed doors. Media has literally brainwashed us to a template for conventional sex, kinky, making it “naughty” and “guilty” pleasures. It is rare to hear that sexuality, even our kinky side is a natural and healthy form of self-love, self-awareness and self-expression. Being kinky simply gets a bad reputation. It is called unnatural, immoral, sinful and dirty. And usually anything outside of missionary style sex between a heterosexual, married couple is lumped into what is considered kinky.  Because of this many women feel shame or shyness towards their kinky nature. It does not have to be that way. Every woman has some kink in her. Today, I encourage you not to suppress it. Instead, acknowledge it, affirm it and enjoy exploring it. I understand there will be resistance towards this. However, when we amend our often negative perceptions of what kink or even sexuality exemplifies; we will be more inclined towards discovery. Let’s diminish feeling dirty about thinking and acting on our kink. To do this, I have a few suggestions for you.

    Photo Credit: Lies Thru A Lens

    One of the most important steps in finding your inner kinky is getting your mind right. You are probably going to have to erase and reprogram some of your previous views, mindsets and beliefs.  We’ve been told and taught many things throughout our life that we accept our beliefs by default. Truly examine your beliefs in relation to your intuitive desires. If everything you want sexually, including the kink, is opposed to your “beliefs” it may be time to remove those negative thoughts. It may be time to mentally and philosophically let go of what you were told regarding sexuality and the idea of being “kinky”. Even though we are living in a hyper-sexualized society, we are still strangely socialized to deem sex and the exploration of it as risqué and a part of our unclean and sinful (not spiritual) nature that needs to be controlled. Being kinky can actually be another way to nourish yourself. It can also foster a positive exchange of energy in a healthy manner.

    Photo Credit: Lies Thru A Lens

    Another very important component, to finding your inner kink, is to identify what it looks like to you without any judgment, limitations or outside influence. Turn your tv off. Do NOT ask for your friends’ opinions on it. Get off the internet…after you finish my article. Turn off the music for a little while. You can let outside sources inspire you but don’t let it create your definition of kinky or sexual freedom for you. Let to your own devices, this is what I want you to do. Let your imagination run buck wild. Create a kinky vision board, collage, mixed media journal or a (secret) board on Pinterest with images and quotes that you have collected. Everything should exemplify what YOU deem kinky. Include fun and empowering affirmations on it to put celebratory energy behind it. Give yourself permission to visualize however it looks like to you without any criticism.

    Photo Credit: Lies Thru A Lens

    DO NOT compare your kink to others. This includes movies, pornos, Beyonce’s latest video and that one article listing 5 ways to be kinky. KINK is a highly individualized and personal experience that you choose to keep to yourself or share with trusted partners. Everyone is different. In addition to everyone being different, it is important to acknowledge that one’s definition isn’t better or less than another person’s. It is simply different.  Different is NOT the same as “better or less than.” That’s really it. My kink doesn’t look like handcuffs and whips, but that doesn’t make it any better or less than those whose does include that. And it also doesn’t mean that I won’t want to experiment with that at another time. Make sure you give yourself permission and grace to change and evolve sexually. Finding your inner kink is a spiritual journey through listening to and honoring what YOU want and like. It is celebrating it. It is getting in tune with YOU.  Finding your kink is a mental job first. Once you stop inhibiting yourself by placing “sin” or “immorality” on the deemed “unconventional” and once you stop placing outward expectations on what it should be, look and feel like compared to others; you can create and have pride in what it is to you. Open your mind. Only entertain what makes sense for you. There’s not just one way or formula. Find comfort and confidence in that. Embrace this diversity and individuality.


    Photo Credit: Lies Thru A Lens

    Confident women tend to ooze a certain energy that both men and women find sexy. This confidence emanates from an internal source and draws others in. The energy of knowing yourself and fully exploring yourself sexually and every other way is what turns others on the most. It turns them on sexually, intellectually, energetically, mentally, spiritually and more. This energy also helps to SUSTAIN intimate connections when the “honeymoon” phase wears off. The energy you give off amplifies what you visually bring to the table. Once the discomfort is gone and you truly embrace who you are and what you want, you can confidently express your kink in a healthy way that resonates with you. You don’t have to wave your freak flag everywhere you go, every second of the day but with a partner and/or situation you trust, you can feel confident in knowing what your kink is. With that knowing and confidence, you can sensually and sexually experience and express what you want. This kink journey will vary, evolve and change. It is important to know that it is a journey and not a race. You never reach a finish line because your thoughts and beliefs are always shape-shifting, changing and evolving. There are no time constraints or deadlines. Some things will come easy for you and others will take awhile. Embrace your journey and stay in your lane. Don’t rush it, simply live. It helps to be around people who are on similar journeys too and/or share similar outlooks. Not to compare notes, but to know that you are not alone!

    Photo Credit: Lies Thru A Lens

    I’ve said it before, kink looks differently for each person. Maybe kinky, to you, looks like greeting your lover in a candle lit room wearing red lipstick and a Bodybinds piece with nothing on underneath it. Maybe it looks like that one time you had sex, standing up, in your living room instead of your bed, traditional style. Maybe being kinky to you is talking about sex in the daytime and not behind closed doors. I’m a Partition” kinda girl. The prominent theme in my deviating from conventional sex is undulating in the duality of what is socially deemed as good/comfortable versus what is socially deemed as bad/uncomfortable; conservative versus liberal. It’s wearing something totally “lady like” with nothing on underneath or slipping away for a quickie in a secluded area of a posh and upscale venue at formal ball, polishing myself back up afterwards and returning to the event. I like the perceived “good” and “bad” being layered into one situation; experiencing balance. My kink involves exploring both sides that create balance. 

    Are you ready to discover you inner kink and encourage it to come out and play? I’d love to read what it looks like to you. Feeling sexy is so much more than looking the part; it's an inside job first and then you can have fun with the outside.

    What’s your kink?

    Milan is a bohemian, new age, Scorpion lady with sophistication and funk. She has a passion for life and adventure and is a glutton for books and all things creative. You can find her at any of your local cultural events, in the park practicing yoga, in the kitchen jamming to A Tribe Called Quest songs while cooking dinner or her blog talking about life and beauty.

    SPECIAL NOTE: For the months of January and February the editorial focus of the Bodybinds Blog will be ALL ABOUT KINK.While we may cover a few other topics here or there, you will notice a lot of features on the topic of KINK. If you are interested in guest writing, being interviewed or featured, please email the editor at

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    Love is a Verb

    During the worst year of our marriage, I stumbled into a secret for feeling love when it was missing-in-action. We’d just moved across the country from California to New York for my husband’s job, after suffering several miscarriages and the death of his dad. Then his company reneged on promises made because an unexpected merger. I found a job in Connecticut, so we moved again three months later. We were worn out and thought things would finally get better. It didn’t take long for me to discover I made a mistake. My fears about shady pharmaceutical company practices were confirmed when a marketing product manager lashed out at me, “I don't need you to tell me what's wrong with the cost-effectiveness of the product; I just need you to get me an article published anywhere that I can give to the reps who can sell anything.” At a product pre-launch meeting, one of those reps told me he preferred drugs that were a tough sell to ones that sold themselves because then he knew it was about him and the game, rather than the quality of the drug.

    Worst of all, we argued like we had in our first year of marriage. We had little time for fun because of his commute and my long hours. We missed kayaking—our favorite form of restoration in California. On ‘good’ days Brian came home to find me listening to Chris Isaak’s Baja Sessions by candle light planning to make bean and cheese burritos for dinner. ‘Bad’ days consisted of me watching Law and Order reruns and sending him back out to fetch pizza or Chinese takeout. When it become clear that another merger would make Brian’s department obsolete, we hatched plans to move back to California.

    Still we fought. One morning, still upset from an argument we’d had the night before, out of desperation I started listing his qualities I fell in love with. By #10 on the love list I’d forgiven him. By #20 I felt loving feelings blossom. By #101 I was head-over-heels in love again. I typed the list in a fancy font titling it 101 Reasons I Love You. I gave it to him as a gift that night during dinner. I cooked one of his favorites, chicken breast stuffed with cheese and bacon (what I’d made on our first Valentine’s Day together).

    The experience taught me that love, the feeling, follows love, the verb. I discovered that little acts of love like baking him cookies or tucking a love note into his briefcase helped me continue feeling more loving towards him. Research has actually shown that when we do someone a favor we like that person more. It was contagious. He reciprocated without me needing to ask. We argued less. We bought kayaks for our cross-country drive, which morphed into a 4-week adventure. A couple years later, while celebrating our anniversary at a local Oakland jazz club, he made me cry and glow with his own 101 Reasons I Love You card.

    All couples go through turbulent times. The secret to getting through them is to choose love. To remember that love isn’t just an emotion, it’s also a verb. Love, the verb, means to cherish—to show great affection for someone. You possess the power to increase your loving feelings.

    Ask yourself, “What would love do?” Then do that. Write a love letter or love list. Create a playlist of your life together. (Re)create a magical date. Draw a bath. Give a massage. How will you show your beloved that you cherish him/her?

    Your Body Is A Work Of Art | Musings on Photography, Movement and Bellies

    Your Body Is A Work Of Art | Musings on Photography, Movement and Bellies

    Your body is a work of art. Go see one of your favorite paintings or sculptures (or look up a photo of it). Chances are it depicts the human form and was inspired by someone's body. The first time I saw Botticelli’s Birth of Venus, my aesthetic response to the painting was so strong my friend had to cajole me through the rest of the Uffizi. More recently a sculpture—Expansion by Paige Bradley—elicited a similarly powerful reaction. Notice the imperfections and vulnerabilities in the art. It’s beautiful, in part, because it’s not perfect. Just like your body. I’ve made peace with and even learned to love most of my body. For example, the crooked toe my aunt made fun of when I was a kid, became quirky after my first pedicure transformed my nails into rubies. My thick, too-tight calves that plagued me with Achilles tendonitis for over a decade, became a shapely asset once barefoot dancing loosened them from rock-hard to simply firm and muscular. And the cheeks I once considered chubby transformed when a friend complimented me on their beautiful curve. As I smiled and thanked her she exclaimed, “I love them even more now!” I did too. If you’re like me, you still have issues with your body, at least some of the time. Most women do. I feel bad about my double chin and my fat belly. They remind me I haven't solved my weight problem despite extensive effort and am less healthy than I could be. What bothers you about your body? What triggers the pain? A camera can be a fantastic tool to increase your body pride. I dare you to go on a body love adventure with photography!

    1. Push Photographic Boundaries

    It took years for me to muster up the courage to be photographed while pole dancing. Despite the incredible beauty, strength, hotness and vulnerability I witnessed in my classmates, I feared photos wouldn’t capture what I felt while dancing. However, when two classmates showed me their photos, I trusted mine would turn out well too. The photo shoot itself was scary, exhausting and empowering. I loved one image so much I put a framed copy on my dresser to inspire me when I lost touch with my fiery side in daily life. When I started blogging several years ago, I shared it publicly. A few weeks ago I received this note from a painter in Singapore:
    I chanced upon a black and white picture of you pole dancing and felt such a strong urge to paint it. I danced for many years before I stopped doing it actively ten years ago; your picture showed so much self-empowerment and fire that it made me want to dance again. ~ Kim
    My body inspired a work of art! How cool is that? Challenge yourself to love your body a little (or a lot) more with a photo shoot that pushes you out of your comfort zone. What terrifies yet titilates you? How vulnerable can you go? Reveal some skin. Perhaps bouoir or pinup makes your heart beat faster. Zoom in. Get a glamourous headshot like a celebrity. Or show off your favorite (or least favorite) body part in dramatic or magical light. Zoom out. Be bold with a full body shot. Be bolder, au natural, accented by only your favorite Bodybinds. And remember, even professionals working with models take many pictures to capture one gem. Make that the treasure: One untouched frame-worthy photograph that lets you inner light shine bright. If you dare, share your boundary-pushing photos with friends (or the world) to give other women the courage to deepen her body love through photography. For inspiration, browse the following galleries. They remind me of the beauty and vulnerability I witness every week in pole dance class. Beautiful Body Project:   This started with one mom’s photo of her post-pregnancy body and evolved into a movement of women celebrating their ever-changing bodies so that future generations can live free from self-suffering Expose Project:  Helps women understand that our bodies are important and deserve to be seen in all variations, shapes, and, sizes.

    2. Cultivate Aesthetic Capacity

    When using art as a process to change cultural conditioning and ease suffering focus on the process and insights that emerge. By developing aesthetic capacity (ability to appreciate beauty and be emotionally moved by it) we increase the healing potential.
    When art expression and felt expression truly meet, or when an individual’s art fully reflects some important part of her psyche and story, she herself is moved and changed by it. ~ Daria Halprin
    Two years after my first pole photo shoot, I participated in a Love Your Body Day blog carnival by sharing ten tips for increasing body love.  Number nine was accepting flaws. I used my belly as an example and wondered if I had the courage to share a picture I disliked because it highlighted  my belly's bigness. Then as I gazed at the picture I noticed the trajectory of the curves. My eye traveled from my left hand up my left arm, through my hair, down my right arm to my elbow, over the hills of my breasts, belly, hips and thigh, to the bend of my ankle and stiletto and then up my butt, arched back, then down my inner arm to my hand. Then back up again. Round and round. I was mesmerized. A recent visit to the Monterey Aquarium, where I’d been fascinated by the pot-bellied sea horses, enhanced my ability to see beauty in my belly. Review photos of yourself that you’ve judged harshly before. Can you find beauty in them now that some time has passed? Or take a series of them exploring the shapes your body can make. Be an anthropologist. Curious. What will your discover? Seek to transform your relationship with a part of your body you dislike or simply tolerate.  What does it remind you of that you find attractive? Use all your senses and emotions. What metaphors come to mind? What positive attributes? Flabbiness feel like a soft pillow, bulges resemble a serpentine hillside, wrinkles resemble the bark of a tree and scars warrior tattoos.

    3. Capture Body Bliss

    My all-time favorite photo of me captures pure body bliss—Venus rising, at one with the sea and sand. Looking at the photo I can almost swim into it, reliving the magical moment. An added layer of significance is a few months earlier I’d watched a documentary of Anna Halprin dancing with nature, one of her dressed in white rolling with the waves. I thought to myself:  I want to do that someday. Now, I regularly dance on the beach in the sand and waves. Capture a magic moment of pure sensual pleasure to inspire you. When you witness your body enjoying herself, blissfully content and fulfilled it’s impossible not to love her a little more. What’s your bliss? When are you most embodied and relaxed? Breakfast in bed. In a bubble bath. Swimming or soaking in hot tub. Dancing. Cuddling with your kids or cats by a fire on a rainy day. After sex... Radiate your passion and joy. Capture it.  Love your body more. Do more of what you love.  

    Lisa Faulkner is the passionate + playful pole dancing professor. She also writes for PDBloggers and Bad Kitty. Come learn and play with her at

    SPECIAL NOTE: For the months of March and April,  the editorial focus of the Bodybinds Blog will be ALL ABOUT TECHNOLOGY & INNOVATION. While we may cover a few other topics here or there, you will notice a lot of features on the topic of TECH & INNOVATION.  If you are interested in guest writing, being interviewed or featured, please email the editor at Sheena [at] PDBloggers [dot] com.

    Photo Credit 2 & 4: Michelle Hayes Photography Photo Credit 3: Painted by Kim Lee Photo Credit 5: Molly Lyda