Boudoir photo shoots are kind of like spa days; they're both designed to help you look and feel your best. Long before the camera turns on, you can begin your day of pampering. 

Before you begin posing for your boudoir photographer, you can enjoy "a day in the life of a model" as you get your hair styled and makeup done. It's not every day that you have your own styling team, so whether the photographer provides it or you treat yourself, on the day of your intimate photo shoot, go all out and enjoy it! Right before your boudoir shoot, this is the perfect time to relax, have a snack (fresh fruit, green smoothies and lemon water are healthy options for boosting your energy), and fill your mind with sexy thoughts. Then when you are mentally and physically in the zone, you can change into your preferred lingerie and heels. Once you're ready for your close-up, the photographer can create amazing images of you against a gorgeous backdrop. During my first boudoir photo shoot, I learned a few things:

1) The more uncomfortable the pose, the cooler the photo.

The number one suggestion the photographer kept hollering at me all day?

"Arch your back! Arch as much as possible. More!"

I don't normally walk around, booty and chest portruding (to exaggerate that I have junk in the trunk and the front). However, the day of a boudoir photo shoot is not quite like any other day, and the same rules do not apply.

An arched back is universally flattering. Use this to your advantage!

It creates curves in all the right places, flattens your stomach, and makes you feel naughty, suggestive and flirty - all those things you want to express in your boudoir photos.

During boudoir photo shoots, you'll need to hold poses anywhere from 30 seconds to two minutes. The photographer might direct you to make small changes in your facial expression (smiling, not smiling, lips parted), the placement of your hands and arms (in your hair, on your body, on the furniture), and the way you look at the camera (tilting chin up, down or to the side).

By the time you're finally "in place" and the photographer is ready to snap photos of your current pose, you'll notice it takes effort to hold the position. Between remembering to breathe, staying still and putting a sexy expression on your face, modeling can be quite the physical task!

Once you see how your boudoir photos look, you'll totally get why holding unnatural poses is worth the discomfort.

2) Props can spice up your boudoir photos.

Depending on what tickles your fancy, you could grab a flogger or heart shaped paddle to play with in your photos. If you're like me, you'll grab both toys and a friend for some extra naughty snapshots!

Boudoir photography is all about capturing a fantasy world, where your sensual side comes out to play and you can bring wild dreams to life. Bring props that go with the persona/character you're expressing or the theme of your boudoir photo shoot.

If you're dressing up like a French maid, for example, have your feather duster, pretty spray bottle and vacuum cleaner with you.

With props, you could go the sweet route and have lollipops or candy. If you're craving something kinkier, use hand cuffs or blindfolds in your photos.

Shibari rope bondage looks especially hot in boudoir photography. If you like the idea of getting tied up and bound with intricate rope designs, consider including shibari as part of your boudoir shoot outfit.

3) Implied nude photos can be playful and sexy.

Even if you're nervous about your first boudoir photo shoot, you'd be surprised by how quickly you can get comfortable in front of the camera. Before you know it, you might even be stripping down for beautiful implied nudes.

Implied nude means that your private areas are still covered (but not with clothing).

For example, you might be topless but have satin sheets or your arm covering you. You could be facing the wall and looking over your shoulder at the camera.

The fun thing about implied nude photos is that you get to be naked yet coy, bared but still mysterious, undressed but still letting 'em guess! You're showing some skin, but not all of it.

Some of my favorite shots from my first boudoir photo shoot are implied nudes. I like that they have a "teasing" feel... it's almost as if I'm in the process of getting undressed and the camera catches that moment in between being clothed and completely naked.

During your first boudoir photo shoot, you'll be bending and arching into beautiful poses, playing with sexy props, and maybe even teasing the camera with implied nudes - if that's something you'd like to try!

Whether you're doing a boudoir photo shoot as a sexy gift for someone special or to give yourself the fun experience of feeling like a supermodel for a day, the whole process can reconnect you to your sexual side. Boudoir photography accentuates what makes you uniquely sexy. That could mean the freckles on your shoulders, the colorful tattoos on your body, the hint of mischief in your eyes, or the joie de vivre that you express with your laughter and gorgeous smile. Boudoir photo shoots are especially fun to cross off your bucket list. Planning to do your first one can be both thrilling and nerve-wracking... but with the positive experience you're going to have during your shoot, you'll be ready for your next boudoir shoot before your first one is done!

Have you ever done a boudoir photo shoot? What was the experience like for you? Did you have to do any uncomfortable poses? Did you use props? Share your story below or a fun tip to add to our list!

Tinie writes about sexuality, open relationships and pole dancing at Her favorite hobbies are conducting life experiments and writing about them. Tinie is also an active member of the #PDBloggers.

Image Credit: Vixen Photography / Scott Saw

February 27, 2020 — Jacqueline Lee