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4 Innovative Brands to Compliment Your Bodybinds

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One of the things I love about Bodybinds and one of the main reasons I invest in purchasing multiple pairs of them is the ability to style Bodybinds with many items in my closet.

If you’re looking for some sleek, sexy and edgy accessories and lingerie that pair nicely with your Bodybinds, I have some suggestions for you based off my personal interest!

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How to Buy Lingerie She’ll Absolutely Love If You’re a Man

Lingerie is inherently decedent. No one NEEDS lingerie. No one NEEDS to wrap themselves in silk or bind their body in straps, but DAMN does it make a woman feel all sorts of sexy to wear it. There is a luxurious femininity that comes with lingerie and makes giving it as a gift an intimate and sensual experience for all involved. But the process of purchasing said lingerie ….well that’s a whole other story. One of my first jobs out of high school was working at a major lingerie retailer. While I will never miss reorganizing piles of panties left in big wads on the floor after one of numerous sales,  one of my absolute favorite parts of the job was helping men shop for the women in their life. Why? Because it was equal parts sweet and hilarious. I had assumed, over my previous 18 years. that adult men understood how  women’s clothing, specifically lingerie, works….NOPE! (Ladies, did you know that there is a large segment of men who think skirts and dresses are the same thing!? Yup, shocks me every time!) Well, it’s not your fault because shopping for lingerie is tricky even if you are buying it for yourself.  So to help make the process a bit less painful here are some handy dandy rules to buying lingerie for your lady:

 

  1. PAY ATTENTION

First rule of buying clothing of any kind for your lady is to pay close attention to what she actually wears. Is she a no nonsense dresser who likes clean lines and practical pieces?  Then look for  items that are monochromatic with small, unfussy details like unique seaming. Or does she layer herself in ruffles, sparkles, and girly prints? Then look for items that play on the feminine fantasy of lingerie – think layers of sheer fabrics, rhinestone and ribbon details, and mixed fabric combinations. Looking to what she wears on a daily basis is a safe way to start shopping for lingerie items for her because you know what styles and colors she feels comfortable in most often. You will also want to start scoping out the sizes and brands she wears most often. Fun thing about women’s sizing is that it can be very incontinence between brands and what she wears in one could be completely different in another. Do your best to find common sizes between her favorite pieces or keep it simple by sticking with the brands in the sizes she already wears.

 2. DIG DEEPER

Warning: What she wears everyday may not be what she wants to receive for lingerie! So along with checking out her day to day wear for inspiration listen to how she talks about her clothing. She may wear black every day, but if she is always complaining about the lack of color in her life this might be the time let her know you are listening and get her an item in a brighter hue. Just don’t take things too far and go the exact opposite of her look, take a baby step in that direction, i.e. if she wants to stay away from black try a deep purple or dark red – DO NOT jump to florescent pink (unless she has specifically pointed to that item in that color as something she would like). For many women, myself included, we don’t want our lingerie to be practical, we want fantasy! Just because your honey sports a baseball tee and boyfriend jeans that does not necessarily mean she wants to receive a Red Sox bra and panty set. She might be crying out for leather and lace, but you’d have no idea unless you do some extra searching. How to dig deeper:

  • Scour her Pinterest page – She may even have an entire board dedicated to lingerie!
  • What does she wear when she has to dress up – Most women stick with easy pieces for everyday wear, but what she wears for special occasions when she has the opportunity to dress up can tell you what fantasy style she really enjoys
  • Who is she between the sheets? Find pieces that will bring out her sensual creature.
  • Ask her – No, not the most romantic way to go about it, but you can sneak in questions by asking her months ahead of time or pointing items out in magazines and store windows

3. KNOW HOW BRAS ACTUALLY WORK

As a fan of erotica I’ve noticed an odd trend in male written stories – a woman is described as being petite and busty wearing a size 42DD bra …WHAT?! After seeing this mistake time after time it dawned on me that there is a lot of confusion about how bra sizing works. So why is a 42DD bra a mistake for a petite, but busty woman? Because while she may have large breasts (making the DD cup size appropriate), a petite woman would have a small band size so she would be closer to a 32DD – check out my handy diagram:  photo 0fb96117-a98f-4642-adb3-4b4d8c3d87a6_zps12c1055e.pngNow that you know how bra sizing works unfortunately that doesn’t mean you can just pick up any bra in that size and it is going to work for her… yes, it’s tricky being a woman. This is where rule #1 comes into play, play detective and dig through your woman’s bra drawer. What brands is she wearing? What styles? Does she like padding or prefer no lining? Again you can play it safe by keeping to the brands you already know she likes, which likely carry styles and designs she enjoys.

4. THINK OUTSIDE THE BRA

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5. ASK A PROFESSIONAL

Take all the info you gathered: preferred colors, styles, sizing, a picture is always handy (or her Facebook page at the ready on your smart phone) and bring it to the professionals at a lingerie store. Expect to spend some time at the store and share everything you’ve learned about your sweetheart. Along with helping you navigate the racks of silk and chiffon, they can also assist with finding the appropriate sizes and give style suggestions. But….

Trust your instincts! You know what makes your girlfriend/wife/lover/sex kitten feel her sexy, sensual best!

ASK YOURSELF THIS QUESTION BEFORE PURCHASING:

IS THIS REALLY JUST A PRESENT FOR YOU?

Don’t confuse what you would like to see her in with what she actually wants to wear. A comfortable woman is a sexy woman. That doesn’t mean your lady won’t love being bound in leather, but a woman who is uncomfortable in what she is wearing, especially one that is intended to make her feel sexy, well its going to have the exact opposite affect. Things you should not assume she likes:

  • Crotchless panties
  • Open bra cups (nipples showing)
  • Pearl or rhinestone thongs
  • Latex, leather,  or fur
  • Custom corsets (they require a lot of specific measurements that the wearer should be involved in)

Safety Pieces:

  • Robes – Keep it sexy with sumptuous fabrics, lace details, and sheer panels
  • Sleepwear/Slips – Again stay away from purely practical pieces and choose items in lux fabrics, sexy cut-outs, and feminine detailing.
  • Items that fit multiple sizes – As you can see above choosing the right size can be tricky so keep it simple with lingerie pieces like Bodybinds, which fit many sizes comfortably and are multipurpose.

WHAT IF SHE DOESN’T LIKE IT:

Chances are if you do your homework she is going to love what you chose, but in case everything didn’t go as planned be sure to check out the stores return policy BEFORE purchasing. Most lingerie stores will not accept returns especially on undies, however some major lingerie retailers do so you may be in luck. If the store has a lax return policy you might want to think of purchasing multiple items so she can choose her favorite!

MEN: What are your lingerie questions?

WOMEN: What do you most want men to know about lingerie?

 Jillian is an avid pole dance student, accessories and costume designer, rhinestone aficionado, and a PDBloggers Executive Committee Member. She also writes at PoleGeekBlog.com.

 

What To Expect During Your First Boudoir Photo Shoot

Boudoir photo shoots are kind of like spa days; they’re both designed to help you look and feel your best. Long before the camera turns on, you can begin your day of pampering. 

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Before you begin posing for your boudoir photographer, you can enjoy “a day in the life of a model” as you get your hair styled and makeup done. It’s not every day that you have your own styling team, so whether the photographer provides it or you treat yourself, on the day of your intimate photo shoot, go all out and enjoy it!

Right before your boudoir shoot, this is the perfect time to relax, have a snack (fresh fruit, green smoothies and lemon water are healthy options for boosting your energy), and fill your mind with sexy thoughts.

Then when you are mentally and physically in the zone, you can change into your preferred lingerie and heels. Once you’re ready for your close-up, the photographer can create amazing images of you against a gorgeous backdrop.

During my first boudoir photo shoot, I learned a few things:

1) The more uncomfortable the pose, the cooler the photo.

The number one suggestion the photographer kept hollering at me all day?

“Arch your back! Arch as much as possible. More!”

I don’t normally walk around, booty and chest portruding (to exaggerate that I have junk in the trunk and the front). However, the day of a boudoir photo shoot is not quite like any other day, and the same rules do not apply.

An arched back is universally flattering. Use this to your advantage!

It creates curves in all the right places, flattens your stomach, and makes you feel naughty, suggestive and flirty – all those things you want to express in your boudoir photos.

During boudoir photo shoots, you’ll need to hold poses anywhere from 30 seconds to two minutes. The photographer might direct you to make small changes in your facial expression (smiling, not smiling, lips parted), the placement of your hands and arms (in your hair, on your body, on the furniture), and the way you look at the camera (tilting chin up, down or to the side).

By the time you’re finally “in place” and the photographer is ready to snap photos of your current pose, you’ll notice it takes effort to hold the position. Between remembering to breathe, staying still and putting a sexy expression on your face, modeling can be quite the physical task!

Once you see how your boudoir photos look, you’ll totally get why holding unnatural poses is worth the discomfort.

2) Props can spice up your boudoir photos.

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Depending on what tickles your fancy, you could grab a flogger or heart shaped paddle to play with in your photos. If you’re like me, you’ll grab both toys and a friend for some extra naughty snapshots!

Boudoir photography is all about capturing a fantasy world, where your sensual side comes out to play and you can bring wild dreams to life. Bring props that go with the persona/character you’re expressing or the theme of your boudoir photo shoot.

If you’re dressing up like a French maid, for example, have your feather duster, pretty spray bottle and vacuum cleaner with you.

With props, you could go the sweet route and have lollipops or candy. If you’re craving
something kinkier, use hand cuffs or blindfolds in your photos.

Shibari rope bondage looks especially hot in boudoir photography. If you like the idea of getting tied up and bound with intricate rope designs, consider including shibari as part of your boudoir shoot outfit.

3) Implied nude photos can be playful and sexy.

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Even if you’re nervous about your first boudoir photo shoot, you’d be surprised by how quickly you can get comfortable in front of the camera. Before you know it, you might even be stripping down for beautiful implied nudes.

Implied nude means that your private areas are still covered (but not with clothing).

For example, you might be topless but have satin sheets or your arm covering you. You could be facing the wall and looking over your shoulder at the camera.

The fun thing about implied nude photos is that you get to be naked yet coy, bared but still mysterious, undressed but still letting ‘em guess! You’re showing some skin, but not all of it.

Some of my favorite shots from my first boudoir photo shoot are implied nudes. I like that they have a “teasing” feel… it’s almost as if I’m in the process of getting undressed and the camera catches that moment in between being clothed and completely naked.

During your first boudoir photo shoot, you’ll be bending and arching into beautiful poses, playing with sexy props, and maybe even teasing the camera with implied nudes – if that’s something you’d like to try!

Whether you’re doing a boudoir photo shoot as a sexy gift for someone special or to give yourself the fun experience of feeling like a supermodel for a day, the whole process can reconnect you to your sexual side.

Boudoir photography accentuates what makes you uniquely sexy. That could mean the freckles on your shoulders, the colorful tattoos on your body, the hint of mischief in your eyes, or the joie de vivre that you express with your laughter and gorgeous smile.

Boudoir photo shoots are especially fun to cross off your bucket list. Planning to do your first one can be both thrilling and nerve-wracking… but with the positive experience you’re going to have during your shoot, you’ll be ready for your next boudoir shoot before your first one is done!

Have you ever done a boudoir photo shoot? What was the experience like for you? Did you have to do any uncomfortable poses? Did you use props? Share your story below or a fun tip to add to our list!

Tinie writes about sexuality, open relationships and pole dancing at DanceTinyFox.com. Her favorite hobbies are conducting life experiments and writing about them. Tinie is also an active member of the #PDBloggers.

Image Credit: Vixen Photography / Scott Saw